Every year, on my sons' birthdays, I record a video message for them and share it here with a prayer.
This year is particularly special because my son has reached his 21st birthday — a milestone that deserves to be recognised and celebrated.
Whatever circumstances life has brought, whatever distance or separation there may have been, one thing has never changed:
I am his Dad, and I love my son.
This is my message to him on his 21st birthday.
My 21st birthday message to my son — Love Dad.
A Father's Prayer for His Son
I was tempted, I was troubled, anxious and afraid,
but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed!
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made,
then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed!
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand....
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand....
Providential circumstances work mysteriously,
something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE....
For at the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh,
I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why....
For in my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid,
and when this is all over I will say,
someone must have prayed....
Patience is my virtue,
Patience is my strength,
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of thy God,
with my sons, standing either side of me....
"Lord hear my prayer!"
"Amen!"
To My Son's
Remember our little chats, Boys.
No matter how many birthdays pass, no matter how much time goes by, a father's love for his son does not simply disappear.
Today you are 21.
I hope you know that you are loved, that you are remembered, and that you are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Happy 21st Birthday, Son.
Love you.
#LoveFromDad
This is one of the personal stories behind Fatherless Britain — a father's continuing journey through separation, fatherhood, faith and hope.
“Remember our little chats Boys, love you... #LoveFromDad”
P's, "Oh and, obviously I don't know if you'll even see this but if ya do, l know it was last week but for some reason I was just finding it difficult this year."
"18 today!" Wow! Remembering the day you came into the world. I delivered you from your mother, with your brother on my back, riding me like horse playing piggyback, I had the phone resting on my left shoulder holding it in place leaning with my head, and the emergency operator panicking on the phone, telling me to make sure I catch you, and not to drop you. Wow, I remember it like it was yesterday.
Happy birthday Jamjam
I was tempted, I was troubled, anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed!
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed!
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand....
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand....
Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE....
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why....
In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed....
Patience is my virtue,
Patience is my strength,
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me
"Lord hear my prayer!"
"Amen!"
Remember our little chats Boys, love you...
#lovefromdad
Love you Son! Miss you, you and your brother. Happy birthday Jaja...
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I was tempted, I was troubled, anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed!
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed!
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand....
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand....
Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE....
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why....
In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed....
Patience is my virtue,
Patience is my strength,
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me
"Lord hear my prayer!"
"Amen!"
Remember our little chats Boys, love you...
#lovefromdad
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From a seed I planted, I did my best to feed, guide, love, and nurture...
And today, the gap tooth little boy blossomed into a 17 year old young man.
With all my heart, happy birthday, Jamjam, me lickle Jaja! Love you, son 🙏🏽♥️💞🪔
I was tempted I was troubled anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand.
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand. Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed Patience is my virtue Patience is my strength
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me Lord hear my prayer Amen Remember our little chats Boys, love you... #lovefromdad
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From a seed I planted, I did my best to feed, guide, love, and nurture...
And today, the gap tooth little boy blossomed into a 19 year old young man.
With all my heart, happy birthday, Sunshine, me lickle Samsong! Love you, son 🙏🏽♥️💞🪔
I was tempted I was troubled anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand.
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand.
Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why
In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed
Patience is my virtue
Patience is my strength
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me
Lord hear my prayer
Amen
Remember our little chats Boys, love you...
#lovefromdad
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What is Sibling Abuse? Is there any correlation between the lack of a father
as a role Model in Single-Parent
Families? How does sibling abuse affect families with Multiple Fathers?
Sibling abuse is a pervasive
issue that often goes unnoticed and unaddressed within families. It can take
various forms, including psychological, physical, and even sexual
abuse.
Sibling Abuse Fatherless Britain
Research has shown that the
presence or absence of a father figure in the household can significantly
impact the prevalence and severity of sibling abuse. In this blog post we take
a glimpse, broach and explore the correlation between, sibling abuse and the
lack of a father as a role model in single-parent families led by mothers, as
well as in families with children from multiple different fathers.
The Impact of a
Father’s Absence
Fathers play a crucial role
in the family structure, providing not only financial support but also
emotional stability and discipline. The absence of a father can lead to a lack
of authority and discipline in the household, which may result in increased aggression
and violence among siblings. Studies have shown that single-parent families,
particularly those headed by mothers, are more likely to experience higher
rates of sibling abuse (Eriksen & Jensen, 2006).
In households without a
father figure, the mother often bears the entire burden of parenting. This can
lead to increased stress and a lack of oversight, creating an environment where
sibling abuse can thrive. Without a strong paternal role model to mediate
conflicts and enforce discipline, children may resort to aggressive behaviour’s
to assert dominance or cope with their emotions.
Sibling Abuse in
Families with Multiple Fathers
Families with children from
multiple fathers face additional challenges. These blended family dynamics can
create jealousy, competition, and tension among siblings, increasing the
likelihood of abuse. Children in such families may struggle with feelings of
insecurity and rivalry, which can manifest as abusive behaviour towards their
siblings (Caffaro, 2014).
In these situations,
siblings may not feel a strong sense of unity and may see each other as
competitors for their mother’s attention and resources. This can exacerbate
conflicts and lead to a higher incidence of sibling abuse. The lack of a
consistent father figure across the siblings can also contribute to a
fragmented family structure, further increasing the risk of abuse.
Psychological
and Emotional Consequences
The psychological and
emotional consequences of sibling abuse are profound. Victims often suffer from
low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and trust issues. The impact of such
abuse can extend into adulthood, affecting their relationships and overall
mental health (Wiehe, 1997).
Correlation with
Domestic Abuse
Sibling abuse has been found
to correlate with domestic abuse later in life. Children who grow up in violent
environments are more likely to either become perpetrators or victims of
domestic violence as adults. The normalization of abusive behavior within the
family can set a dangerous precedent for future relationships (Noland et al.,
2004).
Strategies for
Prevention and Intervention
Addressing sibling abuse
requires a multi-faceted approach. Increasing awareness about the issue is
crucial. Parents, educators, and healthcare professionals need to recognize the
signs of sibling abuse and intervene early. Support systems, such as counselling
and family therapy, can help address underlying issues and promote healthier
family dynamics.
Furthermore, policies and
programs aimed at supporting single mothers and blended families can help
reduce the stress and challenges these families face, ultimately decreasing the
risk of sibling abuse. Providing resources for parenting education and support
can empower parents to create a safer and more nurturing environment for their
children.
Conclusion
The correlation between
sibling abuse and the lack of a father as a role model is significant.
Single-parent families led by mothers and families with multiple fathers are
particularly vulnerable to higher rates of sibling abuse. Understanding and
addressing this issue is essential for promoting healthier family dynamics and
preventing the long-term psychological and emotional consequences of sibling
abuse.
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References
- Caffaro, J. V. (2014).
*Sibling Abuse Trauma: Assessment and Intervention Strategies for Children,
Families, and Adults*. Routledge.
- Eriksen, S., & Jensen,
V. (2006). All in the Family? Family Environment Factors in Sibling Violence.
*Journal of Family Violence*, 21(8), 497-507.
- Noland, V. J., Liller, K.
D., McDermott, R. J., Coulter, M. L., & Seraphine, A. (2004). Is Adolescent
Sibling Violence a Precursor to College Dating Violence? *American Journal of
Health Behavior*, 28(1), 13-23.
- Wiehe, V. R. (1997).
*Sibling Abuse: Hidden Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Trauma*. Sage Publications.
Addressing the root causes of sibling abuse and providing adequate
support and intervention can help mitigate its effects and promote healthier,
more supportive family environments
For a clear example of how the Duluth Wheel Model is being implemented and used to legally abuse men to the detriment of society, view the page Father's Day 2021
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