"18 today!" Wow! Remembering the day you came into the world. I delivered you from your mother, with your brother on my back, riding me like horse playing piggyback, I had the phone resting on my left shoulder holding it in place leaning with my head, and the emergency operator panicking on the phone, telling me to make sure I catch you, and not to drop you. Wow, I remember it like it was yesterday.
Happy birthday Jamjam
I was tempted, I was troubled, anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed!
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed!
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand....
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand....
Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE....
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why....
In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed....
Patience is my virtue,
Patience is my strength,
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me
"Lord hear my prayer!"
"Amen!"
Remember our little chats Boys, love you...
#lovefromdad
Love you Son! Miss you, you and your brother. Happy birthday Jaja...
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I was tempted, I was troubled, anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed!
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed!
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand....
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand....
Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE....
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why....
In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed....
Patience is my virtue,
Patience is my strength,
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me
"Lord hear my prayer!"
"Amen!"
Remember our little chats Boys, love you...
#lovefromdad
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From a seed I planted, I did my best to feed, guide, love, and nurture...
And today, the gap tooth little boy blossomed into a 17 year old young man.
With all my heart, happy birthday, Jamjam, me lickle Jaja! Love you, son 🙏🏽♥️💞🪔
I was tempted I was troubled anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand.
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand. Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed Patience is my virtue Patience is my strength
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me Lord hear my prayer Amen Remember our little chats Boys, love you... #lovefromdad
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From a seed I planted, I did my best to feed, guide, love, and nurture...
And today, the gap tooth little boy blossomed into a 19 year old young man.
With all my heart, happy birthday, Sunshine, me lickle Samsong! Love you, son 🙏🏽♥️💞🪔
I was tempted I was troubled anxious and afraid, but suddenly the cloud was lifted, someone must have prayed
I was lost uncertain of the choice that should be made, then all at once I knew the answer, someone must have prayed
Prayer changes things in ways we do not understand.
Through the pressures of events there comes a hidden hand.
Providential circumstances work mysteriously, something saves me from DISASTER and CATASTROPHE
At the mould of my need I feel that help is nigh, I am led I know not how, I am blessed I know not why
In my crisis unseen powers hasten to my aid, and when this is all over I will say, someone must have prayed
Patience is my virtue
Patience is my strength
Patience shall deliver me into thy kingdom of my God, with my sons, standing either side of me
Lord hear my prayer
Amen
Remember our little chats Boys, love you...
#lovefromdad
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What is Sibling Abuse? Is there any correlation between the lack of a father
as a role Model in Single-Parent
Families? How does sibling abuse affect families with Multiple Fathers?
Sibling abuse is a pervasive
issue that often goes unnoticed and unaddressed within families. It can take
various forms, including psychological, physical, and even sexual
abuse.
Sibling Abuse Fatherless Britain
Research has shown that the
presence or absence of a father figure in the household can significantly
impact the prevalence and severity of sibling abuse. In this blog post we take
a glimpse, broach and explore the correlation between, sibling abuse and the
lack of a father as a role model in single-parent families led by mothers, as
well as in families with children from multiple different fathers.
The Impact of a
Father’s Absence
Fathers play a crucial role
in the family structure, providing not only financial support but also
emotional stability and discipline. The absence of a father can lead to a lack
of authority and discipline in the household, which may result in increased aggression
and violence among siblings. Studies have shown that single-parent families,
particularly those headed by mothers, are more likely to experience higher
rates of sibling abuse (Eriksen & Jensen, 2006).
In households without a
father figure, the mother often bears the entire burden of parenting. This can
lead to increased stress and a lack of oversight, creating an environment where
sibling abuse can thrive. Without a strong paternal role model to mediate
conflicts and enforce discipline, children may resort to aggressive behaviour’s
to assert dominance or cope with their emotions.
Sibling Abuse in
Families with Multiple Fathers
Families with children from
multiple fathers face additional challenges. These blended family dynamics can
create jealousy, competition, and tension among siblings, increasing the
likelihood of abuse. Children in such families may struggle with feelings of
insecurity and rivalry, which can manifest as abusive behaviour towards their
siblings (Caffaro, 2014).
In these situations,
siblings may not feel a strong sense of unity and may see each other as
competitors for their mother’s attention and resources. This can exacerbate
conflicts and lead to a higher incidence of sibling abuse. The lack of a
consistent father figure across the siblings can also contribute to a
fragmented family structure, further increasing the risk of abuse.
Psychological
and Emotional Consequences
The psychological and
emotional consequences of sibling abuse are profound. Victims often suffer from
low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and trust issues. The impact of such
abuse can extend into adulthood, affecting their relationships and overall
mental health (Wiehe, 1997).
Correlation with
Domestic Abuse
Sibling abuse has been found
to correlate with domestic abuse later in life. Children who grow up in violent
environments are more likely to either become perpetrators or victims of
domestic violence as adults. The normalization of abusive behavior within the
family can set a dangerous precedent for future relationships (Noland et al.,
2004).
Strategies for
Prevention and Intervention
Addressing sibling abuse
requires a multi-faceted approach. Increasing awareness about the issue is
crucial. Parents, educators, and healthcare professionals need to recognize the
signs of sibling abuse and intervene early. Support systems, such as counselling
and family therapy, can help address underlying issues and promote healthier
family dynamics.
Furthermore, policies and
programs aimed at supporting single mothers and blended families can help
reduce the stress and challenges these families face, ultimately decreasing the
risk of sibling abuse. Providing resources for parenting education and support
can empower parents to create a safer and more nurturing environment for their
children.
Conclusion
The correlation between
sibling abuse and the lack of a father as a role model is significant.
Single-parent families led by mothers and families with multiple fathers are
particularly vulnerable to higher rates of sibling abuse. Understanding and
addressing this issue is essential for promoting healthier family dynamics and
preventing the long-term psychological and emotional consequences of sibling
abuse.
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References
- Caffaro, J. V. (2014).
*Sibling Abuse Trauma: Assessment and Intervention Strategies for Children,
Families, and Adults*. Routledge.
- Eriksen, S., & Jensen,
V. (2006). All in the Family? Family Environment Factors in Sibling Violence.
*Journal of Family Violence*, 21(8), 497-507.
- Noland, V. J., Liller, K.
D., McDermott, R. J., Coulter, M. L., & Seraphine, A. (2004). Is Adolescent
Sibling Violence a Precursor to College Dating Violence? *American Journal of
Health Behavior*, 28(1), 13-23.
- Wiehe, V. R. (1997).
*Sibling Abuse: Hidden Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Trauma*. Sage Publications.
Addressing the root causes of sibling abuse and providing adequate
support and intervention can help mitigate its effects and promote healthier,
more supportive family environments
For a clear example of how the Duluth Wheel Model is being implemented and used to legally abuse men to the detriment of society, view the page Father's Day 2021
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Unfortunately relationships breakup every day. Unfortunately, when relationships
do breakup, very often fathers unfairly become alienated from their children, often, forlong periods of time. These scenarios are exacerbated due the bias system none as, the Duluth Wheel Model, which we would encourage you to read
after you've finished reading this page.
The Duluth Wheel Model teaches and encourages the professional’s
involved, to uphold any claims of domestic abuse by the mother, with the man unlike the normal rule of law, having to prove his innocents, creating the assumptions of guilt, and narratives
in society as a whole that men are abusers and women are victims.
Remember the poem; “Girls and boys, sugar and spice,” attributed
by scholars of the original children’s version of this poem to the English poet,
Robert Southey (1774–1843).
Verse
2
What are little boys made of, made of?
What are little boys made of?
Snips and snails and puppy-dog tails;
That’s what little boys are made of.
Verse
3
What
are little girls made of, made of?
What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice and everything nice;
That’s what little girls are made of.
The
sudden removal of Fathers
The sudden removal of a loving father from a child's life
due to false accusations by the mother has profound psychological and emotional
effects on the children, affecting both boy’s and girl’s individually and in particular
way’s. This phenomenon, often seen in the context of contentious family
separations and custody battles, has been documented to result in a range of
adverse outcomes.
Psychological
and Emotional Effects
Anxiety
and Depression
Children, especially boys, who experience the abrupt
absence of their fathers often show increased levels of anxiety and depression.
Research has demonstrated that these children are more likely to suffer from
emotional distress, which can manifest as sadness, withdrawal, and a sense of
abandonment (Amato & Gilbreth, 1999).
Behavioural
Problems
Boys, in particular, may exhibit increased behavioural
problems following the sudden loss of their father. This includes heightened
aggression, defiance, and issues with authority figures. Such behavioural
problems are often a direct response to the emotional turmoil and instability
caused by the absence of a parental figure (Lamb, 2010).
Girls who lose a loving father suddenly may experience
heightened levels of anxiety and depression. The absence of a supportive father
figure can create a sense of instability and insecurity, leading to feelings of
sadness, fear, and abandonment (Amato, 2000).
Academic
Challenges
The emotional and psychological stress from losing a father
can also affect academic performance. Boys may struggle with concentration,
leading to poorer grades and disengagement from school activities. This
academic decline is linked to the lack of a stable and supportive home
environment (Coley, 2001).
Identity
and Self-Esteem Issues
Fathers play a crucial role in the development of a child's
identity and self-esteem. Boys, in particular, often look to their fathers as
role models. When a father is suddenly removed from their lives, boys may
struggle with identity issues and low self-esteem, feeling uncertain about
their role within the family and in society (Pleck, 2010).
As stated, the fact that fathers often play a critical role
in the development of a child’s identity and self-esteem, girls in particular
look to their fathers for affirmation and validation. When a father is suddenly
removed, it can lead to identity confusion and low self-esteem, making girls
feel less valued and supported (Pleck, 2010).
Long-Term
Consequences
Relationship
Difficulties
The impact of a father’s sudden absence often extends into
adulthood, affecting the child's ability to form and maintain healthy
relationships. Boys who experience losing their fathers in this manner, often
have difficulties with trust and intimacy, which very often leads to challenges
in their romantic and social lives (Amato, 2001).
The removal of a father often leads to trust issues and
difficulties in forming and maintaining relationships. Girls may struggle with
trusting others, including peers and future romantic partners, due to the
betrayal they perceive from the unjust removal of their father (Lamb, 2010).
This can result in long-term challenges in building healthy and stable
relationships.
Girls without a father figure often become more susceptible
to engaging in risky behaviours, such as early sexual activity, substance
abuse, and delinquency. The absence of a father’s guidance and supervision can
contribute to poor decision-making and increased vulnerability to negative influences
(Ellis et al., 2003).
Mental
Health
Long-term mental health issues are common among girls who
lose their fathers suddenly. The unresolved grief and emotional pain can lead
to chronic mental health problems such as anxiety disorders, depression, and
even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) (Harper & Fine, 2006).
Long-term mental health issues are equally common among
boys who lose their fathers suddenly. The unresolved grief and emotional pain
can lead to chronic mental health problems such as anxiety disorders,
depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) (Harper & Fine,
2006).
As with girls, boys who grow up without a father figure may
and often face challenges in forming healthy relationships. They may struggle
with trust issues, have difficulties in their interactions with peers, and experience
problems in future romantic relationships. The absence of a father can lead to
a lack of guidance on how to form and maintain these relationships (Lamb,
2010).
Increased
Risk of Legal Issues
There is evidence suggesting that boys who grow up without
their fathers are at a higher risk of encountering legal issues. The lack of a
positive male role model can lead to poor decision-making and susceptibility to
peer pressure, resulting in criminal behaviour (Harper & McLanahan, 2004).
Research
and Statistics
Office
for National Statistics (ONS)
According to the Office for National Statistics, children
in single-parent households are more likely to experience poverty and social
disadvantage, which are correlated with the negative outcomes mentioned above
(ONS, 2019). The absence of a father figure exacerbates these issues,
particularly for boys who are deprived of a positive male role model.
Empirical
Studies
A study by Amato and Gilbreth (1999) highlights that
consistent father involvement, regardless of marital status, is crucial for a
child's well-being. Their meta-analysis indicates that children with involved
fathers tend to have better social and academic outcomes compared to those
without.
Conclusion
The sudden removal of a loving father from a child's life
due to false accusations by the mother can lead to significant psychological
and emotional distress, particularly for boys. The impacts range from immediate
emotional issues to long-term challenges in personal development and social behaviour.
Addressing these issues requires a nuanced understanding of family dynamics and
the implementation of support systems for affected children.
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References
- Amato, P. R., & Gilbreth, J. G. (1999). Non-resident
Fathers and Children's Well-Being: A Meta-Analysis. *Journal of Marriage and
Family*, 61(3), 557-573.
- Amato, P. R. (2001). Children of Divorce in the 1990s: An
Update of the Amato and Keith (1991) Meta-Analysis. *Journal of Family Psychology Articles*, 15(3), 355-370.
- Coley, R. L. (2001). (In)visible Men: Emerging Research
on Low-Income, Unmarried, and Minority Fathers. *American Psychologist*, 56(9),
743-753.
- Harper, C. C., & McLanahan, S. S. (2004). Father
Absence and Youth Incarceration. *Journal of Research on Adolescence*, 14(3),
369-397.
- Lamb, M. E. (2010). The Role of the Father in Child
Development. *John Wiley & Sons*.
- Pleck, J. H. (2010). Paternal Involvement: Revised
Conceptualization and Theoretical Linkages with Child Outcomes. In M. E. Lamb
(Ed.), *The Role of the Father in Child Development* (5th ed., pp. 58-93). John
Wiley & Sons.
Amato, 2001
Amato, P.R. and
Sobolewski, J.M. (2001). The Effects of Divorce and Marital Discord on Adult
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Ellis,
B.J., Bates, J.E., Dodge, K.A., Fergusson, D.M., Horwood, L.J., Pettit, G.S.
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to the detriment of society, view the pageFather's Day 2021
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